Your article (Five Reasons It’s Not Time for a Nursing Home) was just in time as I have been thinking of moving mom into a nursing home. She has dementia and suffered a small stroke a few weeks ago that makes it hard for to walk using her walker….but with support I can hel her to get around. She is totally incontinent at this point, but we are managing with depends. I have a lady that stays with her from noon till four each day as noon is about the time she gets up. Since the stroke she is receiving rehab at home to hopefully improve her mobility. Cost is not an issue as a doctor-ordered nursing home move is covered by tri-care for life. It seems, by your article that she is better off at home. Her health, otherwise, is good with all lab tests looking normal. Nursing homes are a hotbed of disease and I am sure she would eventually get sick and I am also sure that the staff would not keep her as clean as she is kept at home. Just looking for a little affirmation for a slightly burned out caregiver…lol.
Connie, Cordova, TN
From what you’ve shared, it does seem that moving mom into a nursing home would be premature at this point. She’s well-cared for by you, you have regular help to provide you with some respite, and I don’t sense that caregiving is causing you any great distress. My best advice is to continue doing what you’re doing. If you begin to feel any emotional or physical exhaustion, it would be wise to consider increasing the amount of hired help you have (noon to four leaves you with 20 uncovered hours each day which is a lot) and seek out support from a counselor. Continue adding help and support as best you can for as long as it’s possible. If it gets to be much, you can reconsider a nursing home.